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No Heroes, No Costumes, No Gaming, No Drama, No Problem.

Life is complicated enough without indulging it.

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asakiyume
Oct. 25th, 2014 01:33 pm (UTC)
Is the title a quote from a song?

Life is complicated enough without indulging it

Is the it here life? What can we avoid indulging to cut down on complications?

If you're referring at all to recent SFF stuff, it's true that beyond a certain point, it *is* self-indulgent to keep going over and over and over it (and I've been guilty of that), but at the same time, speaking personally, it was genuinely bewildering and a little frightening, and quite a bit sad making, and hard *not* to think about.
barry_king
Oct. 25th, 2014 02:27 pm (UTC)
Back in the Phils, I got a nickname, "Labo", which means "roiling, turbid." Generally, when I come to a realization, it's not a clear beacon. For this, I apologize. And for posting after a pleasant evening with many drinks and much good company, I came back and looked at what's up in SFF land, and it's all Marvel Comics and RequiresHate and Gamergate.

So, in my usual "labo" enlightenment, I just realized that what I REALLY dislike in SFF as well as everything else is trying to simplify the complicated. Heroes do that, like Alexander and the Gordion knot. Costumes do it by reducing the wearer to a "type", gaming is the essence of it, and Drama is the result of it. "It" I do not like.

More specifically in SFF, if it involves superheroes, costumes, public drama, games (of any kind), or anything else that tries to take the intricate skein of human existence and reduce it to a zero-sum, binary result, or black-and-white arrangement, then I don't want to have anything to do with it. I am recusing myself, in advance, of comment or care on any of it. No indulging of "it" at all.

Life is too short for that shit.
asakiyume
Oct. 25th, 2014 02:32 pm (UTC)
*nodding*

That's good if you're able. Which sounds snide, like "fine for you." I don't mean it that way; I mean, I think that's an admirable stance if you're capable of adopting it.
barry_king
Oct. 25th, 2014 02:34 pm (UTC)
Actually, it's anodyne. For me, it comes as a relief from the feeling that I *have* to care. I just don't have the energy, so I'm putting this load down. Sympathies for people affected, sure, but wading out and punching that tar baby? No thanks.
moon_custafer
Oct. 25th, 2014 11:05 pm (UTC)
While I agree with the rest of your statement, I don't think I can give up costumes. Not sure i can give up heroes, either, but I may be working with a different definition of that word.
barry_king
Oct. 26th, 2014 05:34 pm (UTC)
Probably. I mean the kind who fixes everything by punching out the villain. Tom Mix, or something like that.

But it's really just that there are parts of fandom that I just will never be attracted to, and I can't pretend. Up to now, I've been feeling guilty because a lot of my friends love them and get all excited by them, and I don't. I admire good costuming skills, and respect people who can put all that effort into them, but I just can't see myself getting involved or wanting to be part of that scene.

This week I saw a 'splaining cartoon about being asexual. I guess that's how a lot of asexual people feel about dating. It's not attractive, it's not repellant—it's just blank.
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